A LinkedIn colleague just asked how I was.
I gave her my short answer, “I feel fine”.
I then gave her my long answer as follows.
Wonderful I finally got my apartment ship shape tonight after living five months here at the Quarterdeck Wentworth Point.
Having sailed on the Bunjalung (Clarence) River as a teenager I have appointed myself the Quartermaster of this good ship, the QuarterDeck.
I certainly wasn’t the
Quartermaster of Andressa Patricua Conçeption, I met for a mere 2 to 3 hours in Roo 2 years ago.
Andressa followed me up determinly online and won my interest. It became an intense emotionally passionate romance for me and an increasingly controlling one on her part.
I would protest at her failure to respond to my heartfelt messages. And she would generally ignore me. I should have walked but I had allowed her to hook me.
Trusting Dominic who tends to see the good rather than the bad, indeed sometimes evil, finally saw what Andressa had done to win my heart then treat be badly. Sadistic pleasure in her part and she admitted she “hates white people”.
I can understand that, but was unprepared for how that could play out in rampantly sexual, and sex denied as part of a racially based payback to white male travellers such as myself.
I tokd her about 2 months ago that she would have to end our ‘non relationship”. She declined telling me I “was to juicy”. More fool me.
A few weeks later she said it was over. I probably continued to complain on WhatsApp, our communication platform as we didn’t have a common language. She ignored me.
Then a week ago, out of the blue, she contacted me with a number of spurious and allegations about my behaviour and state of mind. I think that was her rather childish payback for the many criticisms I made of her.
For a few days I was going to have another crack at her in an attempt to get her to realise the harm she is doing.
I thought Andressa doesn’t care what I say about her. I thought she needed to be shamed in front of her community. But I doubt there would be much shame, I sense her behaviour is common in that community.
Anyway U’ve finally let her know. I reread one of my last messages to her , it was frank and hard hitting. What you write when you see no future in a relationship.
All she replied was that “I am crazy”. Easily said Andressa, but what about the substance of my critique of your attempted, emotional domintrix behaviour towards me.
She knows what I think, she’s in denial which is strange fir a dominating human, they normally celebrate and talk up their power.
I had to free myself from her web and I believe I did that when re-read my powerful condemnation of her and felt I could leave it behind.
So that gets me back to my shirt answer to you I feel good.
Thanks for asking!